Navigating the Hallway of Uncertainty

I'm coming to you today from the middle of what I call an "oh shit moment." You know the feeling—when everything you've been working toward seems to crumble right in front of you. My latest project completely flopped, and if I'm being honest, I feel like I'm failing big time.

But I stopped. I sat myself down and reflected on all the other times in my life when I felt exactly like this. The moments where I face-planted so hard in front of people and wasn't sure if I would ever get back up.

And you know what I realized? I always get back up. Every. Single. Time. Not only that, I always come back 10 times stronger.

The Hallway Between Doors

There's this quote that changed my perspective: "When one door closes, another one opens, but no one talks about the hallway in between."

Right now, I'm in that hallway—the space between an ending and a new beginning. It's dark. I can't see the light ahead, and every step feels like I'm making things harder. But I've learned that the hallway isn't just darkness—it's where we grow.

Growth is uncomfortable. It's messy, uncertain, and sometimes downright painful. But it's also where we become stronger, more resilient, and more aligned with our purpose.

If you're in that hallway with me right now, I want you to know you're not alone. It's okay to feel frustrated, scared, or unsure. But what if instead of focusing on what's going wrong, we dare to ask: what if it all goes right?

My R.I.G.H.T. Framework

Whenever I'm stuck in this hallway, I use what I call the R.I.G.H.T. framework to help navigate the darkness:

1. Recognize what you're feeling. I'm currently feeling disappointed, frustrated, and scared. Instead of pushing these emotions away, I'm acknowledging them and letting myself process them. Feel it, but don't get stuck there.
2. Identify the shift you need. For me, this means asking "what if it all goes right?" and looking for the lesson. Today, I'm sitting down to write out what I learned and how I can do things differently next time.
3. Generate a game plan. Confidence comes from action. My small step forward is journaling, reaching out to my mentor, and revisiting my goals to realign with what truly feels right for me.
4. Hold onto your why. My biggest why is helping people feel empowered and living a present life with those I care about. When things get tough, your why is your anchor.
5. Trust the process. Even when I can't see the light, I choose to believe it's still there. Those 11:11 moments I keep seeing? Maybe they're just reminders that everything is working out for me, even if I can't see it yet.

Learning From My Falls

I've been in plenty of hallways before. When I tore my ACL on American Ninja Warrior in front of everyone (including my ex-boyfriend—talk about embarrassing), I was devastated. Later, realizing my gym wasn't financially viable felt like another massive failure.

But looking back, I can see how each of these "failures" redirected me toward something better. They weren't endings—they were necessary transitions.

Your Turn

If you're in an "oh shit moment" right now, grab your journal. Write "What if it all goes right?" at the top and list every possibility, no matter how big or small. Go through the R.I.G.H.T. framework and remind yourself that the hallway is where growth happens.

It's okay not to have all the answers right now. The hallway you're in is just a temporary stop on your journey—and I promise, you're stronger than you think.

How are you navigating your own hallway moments? What would change if you started asking, "What if it all goes right?"